Every Indian state and culture has its own beautiful rituals and traditions to follow when it comes to weddings. Much like a Bengali or Punjabi wedding, the rustic and raw beauty of a Bihari wedding is hard to miss out on. It is all About Traditionally embracing the rules and bestowing blessings to the new couples.
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The starting point!
Now, before proceeding further, it is time to learn more about the rituals and ceremonies followed in a Bihari wedding. Let’s start off with the Pre-Wedding Rituals and Ceremonies - Satya Narayan Katha, Cheka, Haldi Kutai, Tilak, Haldi Ritual, Matripooja, Silpoha and Imli Ghutai.
Satya Narayan Katha: It is the starting point of a Bihari wedding. This Katha is mainly organised by the bride’s parents. The pooja or the prayer service is elaborative over here, and the relatives and friends from the groom’s side will take an active part in it. The priest will be the one narrating the Katha, and then a haven takes place. This haven remains lit throughout the entire wedding.
Cheka: This is the official engagement that will mostly take place in the bride’s house. But, if you want, you can book a hotel in Rajgir near Railway Station like Gargee Gautam Vihar Resort for hosting this ceremony. Over here, ring exchange takes place. The groom’s family will visit the place with lots of gifts, like clothes, jewellery, dry fruits and more. The next day, it is time for the bride’s family to visit the groom’s house with shaguns.
Haldi Kutai:This is the main Haldi ceremony before the start of the wedding. All the married women will apply turmeric paste on the groom and then send the remaining paste to the bride’s house. Then that haldi is applied to the bride.
Tilak:Here, the bride’s brother will visit the groom’s house with a Tilak Thaal. This is a sign that the bride’s family is accepting the alliance. Then the broker will apply tilak on the groom’s forehead and later present him with gifts. He will also present the groom’s marriage sherwani that he will be wearing at the wedding. The groom’s family will offer bridal clothes, Mang Tikka and gold Nath for the bride.
Haldi Ritual:Here, the groom’s family members will apply a paste made by the bride’s mom, while the bride’s family will use the one made by the groom’s mother. This ritual is for married ladies.
Matripooja:Here, parents from both sides will actively take part in this ritual. Here, they will be seeking blessings from departed ancestors and elders of the family to bless the new couple. On this day, both the families will offer clothes or money to ask for forgiveness from their ancestors. Paunpooji is mainly offered to the elders in the families.
- Silpoha: Silpoha is also called the rice grounding ceremony, which takes place when the sun comes out on the wedding morning. The room’s mother will wrap the rice in a chunni and then grind that using Silbatta.
Imli Ghutai: This ceremony takes place to ward off the evil eye. Here, the groom’s maternal uncle or mother will give him advice on ways to prevent vice land habits. Here, the groom will be given betel nut, and he has to hold that between his teeth. Later, the mother eats that nut.
The main event:
Once the pre-wedding rituals are done and dusted, it is time to move towards the main event. Make sure to book the best hotel for the same, like Gargee Gautam Vihar Resort. Always keep the rajgir hotel contact number handy as you never know when you have to book their banquet halls for the wedding.
Now, it is time to focus on the Bihari Wedding Day Rituals and Ceremonies - Paricchavan Ritual, Baraat Prasthaan, Jaimalaand Galsedi, Kangnabandhana and Kanyadaan, Bhaisur Nirakshan, Kuldevta Puja & Pheras. So, let’s get into details right away!
Paricchavan Ritual: On this particular day, the groom’s mother will perform the Aarti. This entire ritual takes place before the Baratis leave for the main wedding. During this time, the mother applies tilak on the groom’s forehead and prays for a trouble-free wedding and a happy married life.
Baraat Prasthaan: This is the time for the entire groom’s family, along with the groom to leave for the wedding. The car to carry the groom will be fully decorated with flowers. The groom and his younger brother will leave first and then be followed by the rest of the family. Once the Baratis reach the wedding venue, the bride’s family will be there to welcome them.
Jaimalaand Galsedi: It is that time when the bride and groom exchange garlands to show their bond of togetherness. It takes place at the main mandap. After exchanging garlands, the Galsedi ritual takes place by the mother of the bride and other married women. Here, the women will heat up betel leaves in the lamp and burn them to ashes. Then that ash gets smeared on the groom’s face. Then cow dung will be thrown behind the groom.
Kangnabandhana and Kanyadaan: Here, the priest will tie the bracelets on the couple’s right hands. The bracelet is made using cotton thread, turmeric, money, colourful rice and mango leaves. A barber is there to cut the toenails and fingernails at the mandap. Later, the Kanyadaan takes place where the bride’s parents give her to the man!
- Bhaisur Nirakshan: During the Bhaisur Nirakshan part of the ceremony, the bride is presented with saris, jewellery and the lehengas by the father-in-law and the elder brother from the husband’s side. During this time, the bride will be gifted with the family jewellery.
Kuldevta Puja & Pheras: Later, the couple will visit the family deity at the altar and ask for her blessings before starting a new life. Then they will take pheras around the sacred fire. During that time, roasted rice husk will be thrown in the fire.
After the main wedding:
Following these steps means you have completed the main wedding ritual, but that’s not all! To make the wedding season more memorable, you have the Post Bihari Wedding Ceremony - Kohwar Parikshan, Salami and Vidai, Swagataarti, Mooh Dikhai & Chauthari, Chauka Cchulai Ritual to follow. So, let’s begin with this part of the journey to understand the real beauty of the Bihari wedding till the end.
- Kohwar Parikshan: In this part of the ceremony, the couple has to take an early bath the next morning after the wedding. Then they have to dress up for the Kohwar Parikshan. During this time, the married ladies of the family member will check for the blood spots on the bedsheet. This is mainly done to see if the couple has consummated the marriage.
- Salami and Vidai: Then you have the Salami ritual. Here, the elder family members will shower gifts and cash on the groom. Then the next one is the Vidaai part when the groom gets to take his bride home. The bride’s brother will be the one to escort the couple to their decorated car and take them home.
- Swagataarti: Also known as the welcome ritual, it is done at the groom’s house to welcome the newly wedded couple. During this period, Aarti takes place, and the parents will shower flowers and rice on them. A copper vessel is then filled up with rice along with a plate consisting of Alta and two cane baskets. This plate will be placed right at the entrance.
Mooh Dikhai & Chauthari: During this time, the bride will push the plate with her right foot and then step on the Alta plate. Later, she places her feet in the cane baskets. During the Mooh Dikhai period, the bride will be presented with money, pair of gold bangles and some other gifts from the in-laws. When the Mooh Dikhai is done, A Satyanarayan Puja will be hosted for thanking the Almighty for a successful wedding. This Puja is also called Chauthari.
Chauka Cchulai Ritual: This is the last part of the Bihari wedding ceremony, where the new bride will be handed the keys of the household. It actually marks transferring the responsibility to the new member of the family by the mother-in-law. Then the bride has to cook five different meals to feed the entire family. When that meal is over, it is time for the elders to shower the newly wedded bride with gifts.
A ritual worth remembering:
All in all, it is true that a Bihari wedding takes a lot of time and patience to complete. But, every moment is marked with beauty, compassion, love and luck. Overall, as you can understand from the rituals mentioned already, a Bihari wedding is considered to be one of the most elaborate affairs of the said country. It will carry a host of colourful rituals, which are seeped deep inside the tradition and culture.
Yes, it takes time and your patience to actually cover each and every step minutely, but it is worth all the pain you are going through right now. The entire ceremony will mark some good memories to be cherished forever, by not just the bride and groom, but even by their families.
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